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The Pressure of Young Adult Expectations | Sunday Thoughts

Young adult expectations are so bloody high these days. As soon as we finish school at 16, we’re expected to know what career path we want to go down. We’re expected to apply for college, and after that, university. Before we know it, we’re heading into our 20’s and supposed to be stepping into our forever career path?

It doesn’t always work like that, you could be like I me. I finished college and went full-time in the part-time job I was working at the time. To be completely honest, that was the best and worst move I made because that exact job is where I met Nathan. I had no idea what career path I wanted to go down and I only chose the things I enjoyed in college. Maybe, I should have done the same with uni, but I didn’t I didn’t want to move away and get myself in the depths of student debts ‘just because’.

Now, I’m not one to judge. If you knew at 16 what you wanted to do and you’re on the right career path now – kudos to you! But, if you’re not then do not beat yourself up about it. I’m 23, I’m in a job which I know isn’t going to be my forever job, as much as I love it. Hell, I don’t even know if I’m ever going to find that forever job. People around me are having babies, buying houses, getting married. I know that its wrong to compare, but sometimes its hard not too. That’s okay too, it happens, we’re only humans.

Young Adults Expectations

Yes, we’re saving for a house. But we’ve put it on hold because we’ve thought ‘fuck it let’s go on holiday’. So, on my 24th birthday, Nathan and I will be taking our first flight abroad together. Some people have seen a lot more of the world by my age, they’ve been travelling etc. But I’m not letting that shit on my parade.

Truth is, I’m happy in my day-to-day life and that’s the most important thing. I’m so excited for our adventures this summer, stressing about saving for a mortgage was getting me down. We don’t need the pressure of these milestones in our lives, so what that we’ve been engaged for two years and guess what? NO, we’ve not set a date yet. I’m not even planning and I’m okay with that. We’re not planning babies yet, we’re still not ready to buy a house. We’ll do it all in our own time, we’re still young (even though I call Nathan old A LOT).

The whole point of this post is to reassure you that not all ‘milestones’ have age limits, they’re not a must and you should do what’s right for YOU.

Soz guys, rant over. If you’re still here, thank you for being patient with me. You’re amazing. If you have any input on young adult expectations drop them in the comments below!

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7 responses to “The Pressure of Young Adult Expectations | Sunday Thoughts”

  1. Aaliyah says:

    I love this post! I moved out younger than all my friends and when I did that I felt like I have a lot more responsibility but I know the job I’m in now won’t also be my forever job and I don’t know why I feel like I need to have my whole lift together at 22. This is the age for us to have fun and enjoy life! X

  2. glowsteady says:

    I relate to this so much! I went to uni and I left hating my degree and not knowing what I wanted any more. My friends were starting careers and I was back at square one. But you’re so right, we’re all on different paths and it doesn’t matter if we’re not all in the same place. Great post!! x


  3. This was such a good read! I agree 100%. I went to uni for the simple fact I wanted to go with no idea what I really wanted to do so did a degree in something I enjoyed hoping it would work out. I ended up hating it after I finished and now I kind of sometimes feel like I wasted three years of my life! But then I have to remember I wouldn’t be the person I am today without that!

  4. Great post! I couldn’t agree more. There is definitely no age limit to any milestone. I got married at 22, haven’t traveled nearly as much as I want, and am still trying to find work-life balance while saving up for a house. It’s sometimes hard to surf social media and see so many different timelines and benchmarks and lavish lives and travels and say hey, I’m happy and I’m happy for them, too. Different is good, and to be expected. Thank you for sharing!

  5. This is a great post! I completely agree with you. I’m pretty much in the same boat as you. I’ve been engaged for three years, currently saving for a mortgage but at the same time I want to enjoy myself! Thankfully with my career I am going somewhere in relation with my degree. Now it’s just moving on up and finding that dream home. Thank-you for sharing!

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

  6. This is so true! We all have different time frames and so you’ve just gotta do what is right for you! x


  7. Loved reading this! I completely agree with this! There should be no age limit on when you should chip things but there is such an outside pressure to achieve it all x

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